If you’re ready to create a Self-Care Plan, Emotional Self-Care should be an important component in your daily activities.
What is Emotional Self-Care?
Emotional Self-Care involves caring for your emotional needs by identifying what it is you’re feeling in any given moment, and then moving forward in a way that honors these emotions. When your Emotional Self-Care needs are not being addressed, you may tend to get frustrated and burn-out quickly. This can leave you with a feeling of, “How the heck did I get myself into this mess?”
Here are some ideas for ways to take care of your emotional self on a regular basis:
TIP #1: Know and Feel Your Emotions–All of Them!
When emotions start to rise, identify what you’re feeling and allow yourself to feel whatever comes up without judgment or guilt. Give yourself time to process whatever you’re going through and learn to respond appropriately when you’re feeling overwhelmed by your emotions.
Remember: There are no bad emotions!
Everything we feel is simply part of the human experience. And because we know that our emotions are caused by our thoughts, that really gives you all the power over any emotion you may deal with on a given day.
Try to practice emotional intelligence on a regular basis. Recognize that sometimes when dealing with other people, emotions can run high. But there are appropriate and inappropriate ways to handle those situations. Be self-aware enough that you are able to make decisions with your head. Don’t allow your out of control emotions to rule ANY situation!
TIP #2: Breathe Deeply
Any time you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious, stop what you’re doing and take a few deep breaths. Don’t allow your emotions to run the show. Remember that you are in control of you and that you always have a choice about how you will think and feel. Don’t be in a hurry to push away your emotions, just breathe and let them come.
Sometimes, taking a deep breath and assessing the situation is all it takes to recognize that you do have choices. You might actually be making a choice at the moment that is creating stress–and you may want to make a different choice. Taking a deep breath makes it possible for you to make a conscious decision rather than reacting on impulse.
Deep breathing can diffuse many emotions!
TIP #3: Create and Enforce Healthy Boundaries
Think of your boundaries as a healthy space that’s surrounding you at all times. You get to decide how big this space needs to be for you to be completely comfortable. You’re the master of your boundaries–which means you’re in charge of taking care of you, first and foremost. You get to decide what you will allow into your life and how it will affect that sacred space around you.
Many of us struggle with boundary issues. Either we don’t know when we are crossing boundaries, or we don’t have healthy boundaries and allow others to do whatever they want in our space. Learning to make and keep boundaries is an important part of self-care.
However–remember this: No one will ever thank you for setting boundaries. No one but you, that is…
TIP #4: Find Your Tribe
You’ll know you’ve found your tribe when you are surrounded by people who encourage and nurture you with whom you feel a connection.
Sometimes, the people around you will be amazing people. But for one reason or another, they don’t bring out the best in you. They are not your tribe.
Sometimes, the people around you will be toxic and cause you to be a person you don’t really like. They are not your tribe, either.
Sometimes, the people around you will be critical and mean, bullying you into doing things you don’t want to do and violating your boundaries on the regular. They are definitely not your tribe!
Your tribe will be those people who know you and love you, even when you are being your true, authentic self. They want to see you at your best and are there to support you whether life is going good or when things are feeling heavy. Your tribe is an essential part of emotional self-care. It may only consist of one or two really good friends–and that’s okay. Do for them what they do for you, and you’ll always have an amazing support system!
TIP #5: Learn to Say ‘NO’
I suggest that you embrace this little word wholeheartedly. Recognize that it is up to you to decide how you’ll spend your time and how you’ll fill your calendar. When you say ‘NO’ to other people and to tasks that aren’t important to you in reaching your personal goals, you create time and permission to finally say ‘YES’ to yourself.
When I was first learning this skill, my coach would have me calendar things during my free time so I could always use my calendar as an excuse if I needed one. Saying, “I’ll have to check my calendar,” gave me time to decide whether or not I actually wanted to do whatever I was being asked. Then I could declare that I was busy and say ‘NO’ with confidence.
As you learn to say no, remember this: NO can be a complete sentence. You don’t owe an explanation to anyone. If you don’t feel good about something or you simply don’t want to do it, say ‘NO’!
TIP #6: Forgive Yourself
This is one of the most important parts of Emotional Self-Care.
Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you knew it.
It’s the greatest gift you’ll ever give yourself–the gift of knowing you did your best in the moment. Once you forgive yourself, then move on. Don’t continue to beat yourself up for things you did or words you said before you knew better.
Mastering Your Emotions
Life happens. Your emotions are simply an expression of what is happening to you and around you. They are created by your thoughts about your circumstances and over the course of your life, you’ll experience hundreds of emotional responses. Remember that emotions are simply vibrations in your body. They can’t hurt you, and in fact, they are often the brain’s way of alerting you to something that’s going on.
Mastering your emotions and taking good care of them is not only your personal responsibility, but it’s also a great strategy for getting through the daily stuff with a healthy attitude about what’s going on and how you feel about it.
As you create your self-care plan, consider these tips for Emotional Self-Care and include at least one or two in your daily routine.
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