Do you know what you want? I mean really want? I ask because I didn’t. I mean, I had a vision in my head of what I thought my life should look like. It was a perfect vision and I really wanted it to materialize, but I don’t think I believed it could ever really happen.
That’s probably because it couldn’t.
The vision was all about other people and things that were out of my control. My life was going to be perfect–and so was every other life I came in contact with. It had to be that way in order to create my own dreams.
My husband would look something like Prince Charming. He would whisk me away from all the problems of my childhood and build me a white and gold castle, set up on a hill. The inside of the castle would be decorated with white and gold everything–couches, chairs, mirrors, rugs, carpets, tile, stair rails, beds, dressers–you get the idea. My perfect children would run around in perfect clothing–also white and gold–and would be charming and adorable. All. The. Time. They were my kids, after all. Perfection from my offspring didn’t seem like too much to ask. I would drive a white Lamborghini (I’m not sure what the white obsession was all about) and wear white clothes with gold jewelry. It was to be a beautiful life.
But there I was, a rather ordinary girl who married an imperfect man and had children who were normal. What?? How did this happen? Where did my white and gold life go?
I spent years mourning the disappearance of my dream and wondering how I was supposed to be happy without it. I wasted a lot of time trying to figure out a way to get that perfect life to materialize.
And then, I severed my right hand.
It was the greatest blessing ever!
It forced me to take a look at who I was and what I could actually control. It allowed me to start over from a realistic place–a place of truth. I also had the biggest truth in my back pocket: I can only control me.
That truth changed my life. It also changed my vision of what I wanted. It taught me that when I took control of me, I also took back all of the power over my life.
Before my accident, there was me, slightly miserable because my white and gold dreams weren’t turning out. I didn’t have a bad life, but it certainly didn’t measure up to what I thought I wanted. But then that accident happened and everything changed. I started looking for real answers, the ones that could provide passion and purpose, and maybe even joy. And guess what?
I. Found. Them.
Strangely enough, they were right inside me all the time. Real answers to the real problems of my life. I went on a journey to the most desired destination I could imagine, and I ended up in a place that was even better than my dreams. It was my reality.
It was a journey to peace.
My husband is still imperfect.
My children never wear white and even when they were little, they weren’t all that charming. (They were pretty adorable, though!)
I live on flat land in a brick house and drive a Honda (which is a step up from the mini-van I’ve driven for most of my adult life).
I try to wear black, not white, as often as possible because–you know–black is more slimming than white!
But in spite of all of those things, I discovered the answer that would solve all of my problems and fill my reality with peace. I discovered that I am the steward of my thoughts, feelings, and actions. No one else can do that job for me, and I can’t do that job for anyone else. When we recognize and embrace this truth, reality turns into a beautiful thing!
So I have just one question for you: Do you have a dream that seems somewhat impossible?
If you do, you’re in the right place. I’m here to tell you that you can create something better than that dream simply by learning to harness the power of your own mind. Because that’s where the magic happens.
When you wake up and consciously begin to choose your thoughts, other things begin to change, too. You start to love yourself–which is a huge game-changer for most of us! Your relationships also improve. You have greater clarity. Your confidence increases. You become a better communicator. You start to create the outcomes you want in your life and you quit expending energy on controlling other people–people who you never could control, anyway!
If you’ve been living your life in default mode, always feeling like you are at the effect of life rather than the cause of it, I invite you to join me in the Good Enough University Facebook Group. It’s a brand new group designed for women who are living slightly miserable lives and want to figure out how to feel better. This community of women will embrace you for who you are and encourage you to embrace yourself. You’ll have opportunities to sever the lies you tell yourself to prove you’re not enough and the benefit of being led through monthly mini-courses led by Certified Professional Coach, Sandra Jarvis.
But more importantly, you’ll learn The Magic. And you’ll be glad you did. Because it will change your life! You’ll start creating new connections in your brain that will never go away. Because once you wake-up and start seeing the beauty that surrounds you when you leave your unrealistic dreams behind and embrace reality, you’ll never want to go back.
Are you in? Join me soon…Our first FREE Mini-Course begins August 19th. See you there!