It’s crazy, I know, but today is my 5th Handiversary…5 years since the day I severed my right hand. Five years since I left behind the turmoil and claimed purpose and peace as my own.
My life has changed in so many ways, I don’t even know where to begin. Most significant are the feelings of purpose and peace I wake up to every day. They assure me that I am enough, exactly the way I am. It’s something I’m still getting used to, but it feels amazing to love myself and feel confident about the person I’ve become. When I think of all that has changed, I can’t help but be grateful for the accident and blessings that have occurred since then.
Severed: a Memoir of Hope and Healing
Last night, I uploaded my book to Amazon. It is entitled, Severed: a Memoir of Hope and Healing. The ebook is currently available on Amazon for pre-sales and the print book will soon be available, as well. Finishing this story was the completion of a lifelong goal–to become a published author–and it still seems surreal.
I appreciate my family, and especially my husband, for allowing me to share this story. Since my youth, I’ve wanted to help other survivors of trauma and abuse. Finally, through the publishing of this book, my dream is coming true.
My Goal to Help Other Survivors
My goal was to discuss the challenges our family has faced without apology or shame because there are so many people dealing with similar issues.
I want people to know they are not alone.
I want them to have a place to turn when they feel hopeless.
I want to provide a light in the darkness of trauma and abuse.
Because I’ve been there. And I didn’t have a place to turn.
Thus, I tore the curtains off my life and share the experiences that made me who I am today. These include childhood sexual abuse, growing up with violence, a gay father in the 1980s, marrying a man with a pornography addiction, dealing with severe depression and suicidal tendencies, having an LGBTQ child, being diagnosed with cancer, declaring bankruptcy due to overwhelming medical debt, watching my children grow up and do things I didn’t agree with, questioning my faith, learning to surrender, and more.
I also discuss the incredible change that came over me because of the accident and the things I’ve learned since then. And I describe the peace that comes when we make the choice to love and believe in ourselves. It’s a powerful story of hope and healing–just as the title suggests.
Purpose and Peace
But the thing that brings me the greatest joy today is my ability to coach other women with a history of trauma or abuse and help them find peace in their current circumstances. I love to watch my clients as they identify and sever the lies that are holding them back, then begin to see their worth, and decide to reclaim the power they lost along the way. It’s incredibly rewarding work–and another lifelong goal–to make a difference.
Again, many thanks to my family, and especially my husband, for his love and support as I trained to become a coach and during the months it’s taken to get my business up and running. During the next few weeks and months, I’ll be introducing a coaching program for survivors of trauma and abuse. I can’t wait to see the impact it will have on the lives of others who are suffering. My goal is to offer the solution I needed when I was on my healing journey.
But today, on my 5th Handiversary, I want to say thanks to all of you, my family, friends, readers, supporters, and fans. I appreciate your willingness to read my posts, to share my ideas, and now, to support my book. I can’t wait to see what the next five years bring.