Born into home marked by profound dysfunction, Sandra Jarvis struggles to overcome the messages ingrained throughout her childhood. I’m not worthy. I’m not loveable. I’ll never be enough. The physical, sexual, and spiritual abuse of her childhood, all hidden behind the carefully crafted façade of a model Mormon home, leave her wondering if there really is a God—and if so, what must she do to prove her worth?
She marries young, hoping to escape the misery of her childhood, only to discover that you can’t run from the effects abuse. Bitterness and anger increase as she’s faced with seemingly endless trials—postpartum depression, a porn addicted spouse, an LGBTQ child, a cancer diagnosis, overwhelming debt, and fear. Constant fear for what the future might hold. With all of this overshadowing her world, Sandra thinks things can’t get any worse.
Until a tragic accident nearly severs her right hand. Although the physical damage brings an entirely new set of problems, it also gives Sandra an unexpected opportunity to not only recover, but to begin severing herself from the lies that have always ruled her life, the ones she’s told herself to prove she’s not enough. Only then does she discover that life is just what you make of it. That adversity can make you stronger. And that perhaps, things are exactly the way they are supposed to be.
Severed: a Memoir of Hope and Healing, is the powerful true story of finding purpose and peace amid life’s challenges. It provides proof that even in life’s darkest moments, hope is available, perhaps even plentiful.
WHY THIS STORY MATTERS
In recent studies, the Department of Justice reported that more than half of the US population, men and women alike, will be affected by violent aggression or abuse at some point in their life.
Sexual abuse accounts for 1 in 4 women and 1 in 8 boys. Domestic violence affects more than ten million men and women annually. And then there’s the emotional, spiritual, and neglectful abuses that are much more difficult to track. The ways in which humans harm each other are disturbing and endless.
Add to that the traumas that we deal with each day—physical injuries, death of loved ones, divorce, social anxieties, unrealistic expectations in careers and at home, criticism. It’s pretty easy to create another overwhelming and seemingly endless list from the traumas we endure.
Nearly everyone alive today will deal with the effects of trauma or abuse at some point in their lives.
This negativity can lead to feelings of anger, self-loathing, and uncertainty. It can be overwhelming!
The story told in Severed: A Memoir of Hope and Healing gives hope to those dealing with the effects of trauma or abuse. The book touches on several different topics:
- Marital problems
- Spousal abuse
- Death of a parent
- Parenting an LGBTQ child
- Severe depression
- Suicidal tendencies
- Pornography Addiction
- Strict religious systems
- Extreme medical issues
- And more…
It’s designed to give the reader a glimpse into these issues and to identify those which may have affected their lives. It’s also designed to show the incredible power of the human spirit, a power that can change your life and your circumstances when used correctly.
Throughout the book, you’ll recognize yourself in the Sandra’s struggles. You’ll hear your thoughts in her thoughts. You’ll access your strength through her strength. You’ll find yourself hoping she makes it — because if she can do it, then so can you! You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll be angry, you’ll find peace. No matter what, you’ll relate.
Sandra’s willingness to be straightforward and vulnerable has created an honest and raw story that will allow you to connect with the her as you identify your own struggles. In sharing her story, Sandra hopes to show those in similar circumstances that it is possible to leave the past behind and create a life worth living.
As a Certified Professional Coach, Sandra works with people who are ready to face the future, taking with them the lessons they’ve learned from their trauma or abuse, but leaving the effects of those things behind. Through her programs and her individual coaching, she tutors her clients in confidence and self-love so they can begin to access the power they need to create purpose and peace in their own lives!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Sandra Jarvis is a Certified Professional Life Coach and Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner. She’s passionate about helping women with a history of trauma or abuse identify and sever the lies that hold them back so they can find the beauty within themselves and begin to reclaim their power. As a survivor of trauma and abuse herself, she’s familiar with adversity and understands the work involved in healing, then moving forward, to create a beautiful and fulfilling life.
The Off-hand Inspiration Podcast is Sandra’s way of sharing her messages of hope and healing with the general public. Listen in on Apple Podcasts. She’s is also passionate about sharing her messages of hope and healing at live events. Visit the SPEAKING tab of this site for additional information.
Sandra is a chocolate addict, a lover of all things Disney, and hopes to become a professional beach bum someday. She’s the mother of five children, the grandmother of six, and currently resides with her husband, Jim, in the state of Arizona.