What if you believed you were already perfect? How would that change the way you think? The way you feel about yourself? The things you are willing to try? I’m here to tell you a secret…
In my coaching practice, I talk a lot about the lies we tell ourselves to prove we’re not enough. The lies are tragic, really.
I’m not good enough.
I’m not pretty enough.
I’m not smart enough.
I’m not happy enough.
I don’t make enough money.
I don’t have enough friends.
I’m not educated enough.
The list goes on and on! In reality, all of these lies are just part of a bigger lie, the lie of perfectionism
I used to be a perfectionist. When I was young, I had dreams of living in the perfect house, all decorated in white, with perfect children who never did anything wrong, and a perfect husband who looked after my every need. It would be…well…perfect!
Then I grew up and discovered that reaching that level of perfection requires making excuses. Lots of them. About why things aren’t done or apologizing because they aren’t done right. When I look back at the times that my perfectionistic tendencies were holding me hostage, I can tell you that in reality, I was scared. I was either unsure of how to do something or afraid of the judgments of others if I didn’t do things right…so I used the lie of perfectionism as an excuse.
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