SANDRA JARVIS | PROFESSIONAL CERTIFIED COACH | INTERNATIONAL COACHING FEDERATION

Cor.E Energy | Certified Trauma Recovery | Certified Religious Recovery | Energy Leadership Index-Master Practitioner | Certified Wellness Coach | Certified Transitions Coach

“Do you trust me?”

Those are the words I said to my 14-year-old daughter right before I unsuccessfully taught her to drift.

We were in a side-by-side—both of us for the first time in our lives—and a few minutes earlier, I had successfully completed my first drift. Ever. So, of course, I was the perfect person to instruct my 14-year-old, unlicensed daughter on how to do the same (said with extreme sarcasm).

The correct answer to that question would have been, “No, Mom. No, I don’t!”

But being the obedient and adventurous child she was, she nodded, then took off across the hot, sand-covered asphalt.

It didn’t end well…

…unless you consider a near amputation, a $65,000 life flight to the nearest trauma center, and a surgeon who said, “I’ll do my best!” a success.

Nevertheless…that accident changed me.

I had always been a high-achieving, people-pleasing, self-abandoning perfectionist who spent decades trying to earn love by sacrificing myself.

I was also bitter. Exhausted. Full of shame and self-loathing. I looked like I was doing fine from the outside—married, raising kids, active in church—but inside, I was drowning in silence.

StilI, I skillfully held everything together until it all came undone—literally.

When I woke up in that trauma unit, something cracked open. For the first time in my life, I wanted to fight for myself. I wanted to live—not just survive.

That moment changed everything.

…I underwent 20+ surgeries to repair my hand and arm.

But the bigger transformation happened inside.

I started healing the trauma I’d carried since childhood.
I dismantled the beliefs that told me I wasn’t enough.
I focused on silencing the brutal inner critic I called my "Inner Mean Girl."

And as I began to see myself as someone worthy of life and love and happiness, an amazing thing happened.

That healing began seeping into every area of my life.

Because here’s the truth: I brought all of that pain into every relationship I had.

My unworthiness. My fear of abandonment. My need to be everything for everyone.

I thought I had to sacrifice myself to be “good.”

Over the next 5 years…

My marriage had taken the hardest hit…

And after decades of over-functioning, I was burned out, resentful, and lonely.

I had married my best friend…but at some point, we became roommates. Just two people living in the same house.

I still loved him…but I kinda hated him, too. And divorce had started to look like our best option.

The accident saved me in all kinds of ways.

Most importantly…it forced me to slow down and take a good look at my life. And if I’m being honest, I didn’t like what I found.

The next five years were a combination of “living hell” and “redemption.” While my physical energy was focused on healing my hand and arm, my mental energy was focused on uncovering and healing the wounds deep inside of me.

The turning point came when I realized…

…the marriage doesn’t get better until YOU do.

I stopped trying to fix my husband. I started healing myself. And slowly, everything changed.

Now, as a Certified Relationship and Betrayal Trauma Coach, I help other women do the same.

Through my private coaching program, LOVE Again, I work with high-achieving women who are still in love—but kinda hate him right now. Women who don’t want to walk away from their marriage, but can’t keep living like roommates with a shared to-do list. Women who are ready to stop abandoning themselves and start coming back to life.

This isn’t couples therapy.

It’s not about fixing him.

And it’s definitely not about staying silent to keep the peace.

It’s about YOU.

Your healing.

Your power.

Your freedom.

Because here’s the truth:

If you want a marriage that feels whole and complete, that feeds your soul and connects you with your partner on a heart level…

…you have to start with two people who are whole and complete on their own.

It seems counterintuitive, but the magic happens when you stop focusing on him and start focusing on YOU.

If you’re ready to reignite your marriage from the inside out, I’d love to talk.

Because you don’t have to burn it all down to feel free. And you don’t have to do this alone.

The greatest lesson I’ve learned is this:

YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE MISERABLE.

It’s up to you to create whatever you want in your life.

You can create wealth and power.
Purpose and peace.
Humility and service.
Love and connection.

It’s entirely up to you.

If you’re ready to L.O.V.E. Again…

Let’s have a conversation.

You have nothing to lose.

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SEVERED

A MEMOIR OF HOPE AND HEALING

Born into a home marked by profound dysfunction, Sandra Jarvis struggles to overcome the messages ingrained throughout her childhood. I’m not worthy. I’m not loveable. I’ll never be enough. Then a tragic accident nearly severs her right hand. Although the damage to her hand brings an entirely new set of problems, it also gives Sandra an unexpected opportunity not only to recover, but to begin severing herself from the lies that have always ruled her life, the ones she’s told herself to prove she’s not enough. Severed: a Memoir of Hope and Healing is the powerful true story of finding hope and purpose amid life’s challenges. It proves that peace is available even in life’s darkest moments, perhaps even plentiful.