Master Your Inner Mean Girl
Your inner mean girl is all about judgment. Whether you are judging yourself, judging other people, or judging the judgments of others, your inner mean girl is at the root of it all. And judgment is at the root of human suffering. It’s the reason you feel so miserable! But you don’t have to be miserable. When you understand where your inner mean girl originated and how to master that voice inside, you can begin to cultivate self-compassion, embrace your emotions, and live a more empowered life.
Mastering the SELF
My biggest regret is that I learned at an early age to suppress my emotions. Sound familiar? I became a master of performance rather than a master of self. I focused on self-correction rather than self-connection, believing that if I showed up perfectly--or at least, what I had been taught was perfect--then I'd earn the love of those around me. And for some reason, their love seemed more important than my own love. But guess what? It's impossible to suppress your emotions, because when you do, your body expresses them for you as symptoms.
We’ve All Been Brainwashed
I think we've all been brainwashed.
Everyday, I work with women who feel worthless. They spend their time questioning their abilities and wondering if they'll ever be enough. It takes months...or even years...of working together for them to begin seeing themselves as a valuable member of society.
I get where they're coming from. I used to feel the same way about myself. But I've spent the past decade unlearning a lifetime of messages that were constantly reminding me I needed to do more, have more, and be more.
Looking at where those messages originated is why I've come to the conclusion that we were all brainwashed.
Body Shame and the Wisdom of Barbie
I’ve struggled with body image my whole life. I was never thin enough. Never tall enough. Never pretty enough. Never anything enough. When I look back at pictures of myself when I was young, I’m baffled by these thoughts because now I see myself as an attractive young woman. But all I felt back then was disgust for my body, so much so that I disconnected from it a long time ago.
Better Than Perfect
What would change in your life if you believed you were already perfect? And what keeps you from having that belief? If you struggle with self-worth, you’re not alone. But maybe a shift in your perspective is all you need!
To Commit or Not…That is the Question of 2024
COMMIT. That’s the word I’m focusing on for 2024. I’m not wholly unfamiliar with it. After all, I commit to losing weight every Monday like clockwork. And I commit to growing my business every Friday (after I meltdown and quit every Wednesday). So what will be different in 2024? That is the question!
Is Life Coaching A Scam?
In the mental health community, there’s an ongoing debate about whether life coaching is a legitimate form of mental health care—or not. There’s been some negative press about life coaching scams, big name coaches who haven’t delivered what they promised, and the lines between therapeutic practices and coaching modalities becoming blurred.
Are You a “Have” or a “Have” Not?
As humans, we have the power to choose the way we think and feel about our circumstances. We can choose to be miserable. Or we can choose to see life as a gift. I’ve come to believe that this shift in attitude can go a long way toward changing you—without changing anything else at all.
HOW TO REVEAL THE “FUTURE YOU”
You are alive today because of the incredible things you’ve accomplished in your past, so please don’t discount them. But recognize that life is a journey—and you are meant to progress until the day you die. And because of that, defining yourself by the past is probably not going to serve you well.